Wedding Bells Ring…Again!

Before anyone freaks, Honey Bear and I are still married! I will never love any other man for the rest of my life! I also told him that I would only marry once & have one wedding.  Although, as of lately, I’m starting to have the “blue’s” about how my wedding wasn’t…well all I dreamed of.

Don’t get me wrong, my wedding was beautiful! I married to the love of my life on October 25, 2014, and since then it has been amazing! I waited a little over 5 years to marry the love of my life! First off, you need to know a few things before I explain why I want a re-do!

We made our own Save The Dates with these cute paint fight pictures!

My wedding was supposed to be a fairytale/Halloween theme to it. No country theme to it at all. Don’t get me wrong, there are beautiful country themed weddings. I just didn’t want to be another country themed wedding though. I’m from Texas so there are thousands of other brides doing country themes. My wedding was beautiful though because my mom decorated it. 90% of decorations were hand crafted by my mom! The venue we had it at was a few minutes out of town and already decorated with a bunch of antiques. Perfect because I’m also a big fan of anything vintage!

My grandpa had passed September 2013 and I was still taking it hard up until the wedding. Plus with my health, I just couldn’t handle wedding planning. My mom took over planning and everything. So yes, there was some country theme to my wedding but mostly it was fairytale. She tied in my Halloween theme into the photo booth and candy booth. Butterflies represent my grandpa so she tied in butterfly decor here and there as well. My wedding was beautiful! I am so lucky to have a mom who literally burned herself with a glue gun multiple times while gluing hundreds of flowers onto wooden shaped balls!

I know a lot of people say that “the wedding is more for the guests, you won’t remember a thing, don’t spend a lot cause it’ll be over in a few minutes”, etc. Yes, this is all true but the fact is, you should at least enjoy some small moment of your wedding!

My Wedding Shoes! Jake and I love zombies so I figured I’d do something cute and funny.

Besides the decoration, I enjoyed…nothing! I didn’t even get to say my vows because the judge had a long Hallmark, sappy story and was rushing. I didn’t get my dress until the day of and it was still wrong! (David’s bridal ordered the wrong size, alterations were wrong 3 different times, didn’t order two accessories but the girl who took my order just took off. Never heard of again). My mom paid for my dress & all that came with it. Bless her heart. My dress is beautiful and I am in awe of it. Not what I wanted but still my heart melted. Made me feel like a sweetheart princess! This October I plan to take pictures in the wedding dress before I have it sent off to be put in a box to keep it for the rest of my life. If I have a baby girl, maybe she would want to wear it! Also the venue was supposedly cleaned before my wedding but it wasn’t. The bottom of my dress is black!

The photographer was rude and pushy. Also she wasn’t what everybody talked about. She came from Las Vegas and was supposed to be all that. I think she filtered my images with the basic picture editor that everyone has on their laptops. Some pictures look blue, not gray. Everyone has racoon eyes and dark pictures. My smiles were forced because I was wanting to cry due to her being so mean. She kept getting onto me for not carrying my bouquet everywhere. My guests left except for like 8 people because the whole time I was posing! I had to tell her that my blood sugar was low and I needed to take a break. She didn’t care! My mom had to shove food in my mouth and a coke because I was about to pass out!

 

My wedding cake tasted like flour and Jake’s cake was nothing but peanut butter & dry as the Underworld! The cakes also came from the best bakery in surrounding counties! So expensive and horrible! When I wrote the baker a thank you card, I put an inside joke in it. We had been joking about how the bride doesn’t get to eat the cake, it’s for the guests. So I made a joke about how she was right. I guess she didn’t get it. Got offended and called my mom. She refunded us $50…really!? Also I told her I didn’t want any of that country taffeta around the cake. Well she did it anyway. So little pieces of it were around the cake…in the frosting! I told her I wanted butterflies cascading the cake with a red, yellow and orange roses. I got sunflowers with just a few butterflies!

 

Left is my 2nd bridesmaid, Maria and to the right is my other best friend Jasmine

I was at my wedding (on time), in the dressing room and no one was there. 30 minutes go by and we are panicking because someone forgot my hair extensions and my bridesmaid’s dress won’t zip (yet again David Bridals fault).  My other bridesmaid is having to fill her dress with 2 padded bras because the top was so big (again, David Bridal’s fault). People were at my wedding 15-30 mins late. So by the time the I DO’s were done…majority of people left. Some people were blaming me for being late! Doesn’t everyone know that weddings don’t start on time? I was the bride and on time for my own wedding and not one car was in the parking lot! Don’t blame it on me!

Jake & My Baby Brother

On the morning of rehearsal, my mom, aunt and I went to decorate the venue. The day before your wedding is usually really hectic and your nervous as ever! I also should mention it takes a LOT for me to get mad. I’m really forgiving, always give someone a few chances, make excuses for people, etc, etc, etc. My mom paid to have an extra day to decorate so we didn’t have to do it the day of the wedding. So we were entitled to the key, the building, anything we wanted and to be by ourselves. My mom told the owner she wanted us to be alone so we could be calm, have fun decorating and be at peace. The vendor walks in with people wanting to see the place! There is a screaming baby! These women don’t even say hi to me. The vendor didn’t even run it by me! The man who is with them is in our way, sitting on a bench that we need to move, etc. The vendor apologized to my mom only. She knew I was mad because I wasn’t my chipper self. Honestly, why did my mom pay a $100 more so we could have the whole day to ourselves to get things done. Now I have to leave and go get a drink so that I can give you alone time with your new customers. Also, her husband was so nice & he thought my wedding was beautiful. He helped my mom hang things when I had to leave to go get dressed. He was upset with his wife for things she did. For example…we were about to pay her months in advanced for the day of Halloween for my wedding. Well that didn’t happen because she called my mom…not me. She explained that she mixed something up on the calendar and forgot about another couple who were going to be wed that day. Let me also mention that this couple were debating about that date for TWO WEEKS and hadn’t paid yet! I was ready with cash in hand the day after!  My mom even tried to offer a $100 more! It was promised to me. Her husband was so mad but honestly he let’s her deal with the business. So as much as I liked her husband…shame on him. He shouldn’t let her deal with the business if she kept missing up with my wedding or offending me. The vendor posts pics of each wedding they have at their venue. The pictures she posted of mine was actually one picture and it was blurry. It’s okay because I got some really great shots of the wedding and posted it on her page. Then I bragged about her HUSBAND…not her! TAKE THAT!

I started with 7 bridesmaids! Wedding day comes and I only have 2! I promise I wasn’t a Bridezilla! I told all 7 girls, that I wanted them to be apart of my wedding a little over a year in advanced. Multiple times, I tried to get all the girls together. Failed every time. My mom and Jake offered to pay and try to help for the dress’ and such for the girls to wear. The dress’ I picked out weren’t what I wanted but they were $99! So that is very cheap plus we offered to pay. One girl dropped out because she was having financial problems. Then throughout the course of the wedding planning, she kept going back and forth about wanting to be a bridesmaid. 2nd bridesmaid dropped out due to too much “stress”. I guess clubbing is really stressful and your part-time job is getting to shop for other people. Such a struggle, I guess! 3rd, moved due to military. 4th girl didn’t like one of my wedding guests. The last girl…well we just drifted apart. Quietly. No one understands her anymore. So my best friend and my cousin were my only brides maids left!

So this brings me to a idea…scary huh!? What if I have another wedding!? Not a big one because with the house projects & holidays coming up, it would be too expensive. I had an idea that maybe on the anniversary or week of, take vaca time and go to Austin, Tx. Our favorite place in the world (also where we went for our Honeymoon)! Maybe invite a few friends to tag along and invite a few family members. Get to finally say our vows that we worked so hard on! Maybe just wear a simple dress but yet my taste!

Jake’s table! My favorite part was the gold oil rig (Honeybear works in the oilfield).

One part, I feel guilty. I talked to my mom about it and she seemed totally fine with it. I just don’t want anyone to have hurt feelings that I am having something small and private. Or that I am having a re-do wedding. I don’t want my mom or family to feel like my wedding wasn’t special. The decor, the hard work & love that my mom put into my wedding is what matters to me. Other than that, the wedding was not worth it. I hope that maybe once I say my vows and in the moment, I will feel guilt free!

I also hope by posting this, that it will help some of you! Seriously don’t put so much money into a huge wedding. I didn’t have a huge wedding and it still wasn’t all cracked up as what you see in the movies. I knew nothing was perfect and that some people are just flakes. Some people are rude and don’t give a crap about your dreams. They want your money, darling! So, save your money for gifts for you and your spouse. Save the money and put it towards a new pool or house. Or take a lavish honeymoon! Go to the beach with the pink sand and have champagne with chocolate covered strawberries. Get naked and celebrate love with your man somewhere beautiful!

 

I just want to feel that moment, speak from my heart & feel so much love! Can I at least have that!? Dressing up is just a bonus. Others say I should wait till our 10 year anniversary to do it. Honestly, I want to be pretty and wear a pretty dress and not worry about having to plan or limit myself if I have young kids by then. Yes, I could include them but I just feel like I want it to be him and I. Then afterwards, celebrate with friends in Austin, Tx. Then have alone time to have a mini honeymoon instead of a “family vacation”. I don’t want to wait that long to say the vows that I made myself with no help!

Just thinking about all the things that went wrong, the people who flaked or how rude some people were…it just saddens me. Makes me want to cry right now. Honeybear and I have gone through so much and we deserve one special day. I want to hear him speak from his heart. I’ll have updates on our 2nd wedding in future posts! I got to get to planning! October isn’t far! Love you so much, babes ❤

 

~Love Kaleido~

 

Sephora Give Away!

Hey good lookin’! So I was gone all last week and I had time to take a break. I had a small procedure done and they ended up taking some biopsies. I’ll probably get a call later this week with this results so hopefully all will be okay. Thank you for the sweet messages! I also hope that everyone had a great Father’s Day weekend!

Want to put a small reminder that once I reach 50 followers, I will be doing a Sephora Giveaway! So just click the Contact page and fill out the small form! Your done! Once I have 50 followers, I will enter each name into a bowl and draw! Why pass up a Sephora Giveaway!? That’s just insane! Why pass up anything free!? Are you insane!?

If your new, welcome & thank you for taking the time out of your day to visit my site! The Psychedelic Kaleidoscope Blog is not about one certain thing. Life, beauty, love, music, art and such that INSPIRES! Just like a kaleidoscope, life is colorful & ever-changing! I used to have a blog a few years ago and it started to hit off. Then my grandpa became really ill and I had to put the blog to an end. This is my “fresh start” back into the blogging world.

I hope to share and learn about each and every one of you. I live in a very small town and kind of far off from my family about an hour away. So I do like to talk a lot, share and learn about others. Here you are accepted, welcomed & respected regardless of color, size, religion, opinions & so on. This site will not tolerate any kind of hate or negativity! I also feel like besides being home, or with those I love, that I can’t really be open due to the surrounding towns being closed minded. So I thought this would be a great way to open up and maybe a few of you can do that as well.

My nick name is Kaleidoscope aka Kaleido! The name was given to me by my mother because I constantly am changing my hair color! I have been every color except silver, black and peach. I get really bored with just one hair color and I can’t help it! I used to work at Hot Topic and that didn’t help my addiction! I am though on a challenge to not dye/color my hair as much and to grow my hair out. I’ll try…TRY!

Monday’s I usually just talk my head off, share a story or do a survey. If you feel the need to share or participate then just shoot me an email. I might just put you on the blog! Wednesday’s I usually talk about whatever too but mostly it’ll be about fashion. Friday’s is for recipes especially baking goods. I think I’m better at baking than cooking honestly. From time to time, I will do a product review or else experiment with topics off Pinterest to see if it actually works. Wonder if something works? Shoot me an email. I’ll try anything!

Have a great day good lookin’ babes & dudes!

~Love Kaleido~

P.S- Fill out the form now to enter the Sephora Giveaway! IT’S FREE! If you would like to follow me on Instagram, just go to my contact page and the info is there! Love you!

Living Life To the Fullest

4 in the morning and my husband’s alarm clock goes off. Ten minutes later, the alarm on his phone goes off. Every ten minutes until about 5:30, two alarms going off! UGH! His alarm clock plays country & red dirt as the alarm on his cell phone plays heavy metal. While this goes on, his camera light flashes on and off. The light on his phone can blind you, no kidding! It’s like a strobe light! Jake sets so many alarms due to the fact that he can sleep through ANYTHING and he doesn’t want to be late. Don’t trust the wife to wake you up though, who by the way just had a heart attack while Johnny Cash was singing Ring Of Fire!

I wake up about 5:20 am to cook Jake a scrambled egg, sausage patties, prepare his protein shake and pack his lunch. I then set the garbage cans to the curb while trying to get all of my OJ into my mouth instead of on my shirt. Then I proceed to take all five of my furry faced children outside. Brush their hair. Try to call them back into the house. All of the babies listen except Gunner, who is stubborn. If you have a husky child, you know how stubborn they are! UGH!

Once all in, I feed the big dogs first and then the little dogs. Clean up any messes.  I then try to work out. After an attempt to work out, I then do laundry, clean the floors, clean the oven, the tub, etc. When you live in a house, which at the same time you are renovating it, you know how much cleaning & organizing there is. Nearly every week, I take my mom, one of the furbabies, grandmother or else myself to a doctor’s appointment.

It may not seem to most that my days are hectic but they are! Just because I don’t have human children, doesn’t mean that I don’t care for them or it’s not as complex as having a human kid. I clean up poo, pee, vomit, hair & whatever mess they get into.

Each day when Jake get’s home from work, he asks the same questions. “How are you, How was your day, What did you do”? Each day I tell him about the same thing “hectic, long, my back is killing me”, etc. Sometimes I’ll tell him a story of something chaotic that happened in the day or someone said to make me mad. Then he laughs and says “awe”. He believes I’m cute when I’m mad so when he says or thinks that, it makes me feel like he doesn’t take me seriously.  As he says “awe”, I imagine myself beating him with a pillow case full of soap bars! Sweet, right!? Well, when the puppy love fades away & you are with someone for over 8 years, you will understand! You will then think of smothering him while he snores!

I don’t know if any other women go through this but I am going to be 26 this December! I’m freaking out about what I have done with my life, what I am doing now & what will I be doing in my future! I know I shouldn’t but there is this girl that I went to school with and I do seem at times to envy her. I’m only human! She is seriously like Wonder Woman! No joke! Even other women don’t understand how she does it! She has to be Wonder Woman. No other explanation!

So here I am. Living each day cleaning, cooking & emotional. The same schedule. The same messes to clean. My husband not taking me seriously. It’s a great day if I remember to put deodorant on!

Last night, I couldn’t sleep and of course a million thoughts were going through my head. I am freaking out about my biological clock that is ticking, having PCOS, another doctor’s appointment tomorrow, a small procedure I’m having soon, what to cook tomorrow, how to spice up the love life, am I attractive with the 30 lbs I put on in two months, am I really living, am I fun, etc.

Jake may not be romantic, pick up my hints & annoying at times but he loves me. He is so loyal. My furbabies maybe stubborn, not listen at times or get into things but they give me unconditional love. I couldn’t imagine not waking up to Pepper and Gunner’s beautiful faces right by my face as soon as I open my eyes in the morning. I couldn’t imagine life without any of them. The sloppy kisses, Jake laughing at my stupid jokes, Gunner talking up a storm because I didn’t give him 3 treats…all of it is all worth the dark bags under my eyes. Unconditional love is the only way to live life, honestly. The only thing worthy in life. The only way to live life.

Remember the small things that make  your relationship or life unique & special. Each day, say those three little words to each other, even if your mad at each other. Spend an hour on your makeup, hair & an outfit. Just take a load of selfies. It’s okay to feel beautiful! Remind yourself that you are more than just hair buns, cooking aprons & puffy eyes. Never say “I can’t”.  When you wake up, be thankful that you have another day to live. Before going to bed, list everything & every person you love.

The most important thing is to love. Love, love, love, love, love! Whatever it is or whoever it is. Just love. You are going to live a miserable life and have constant emotional break downs if you don’t realize to love what you have in life. Take the good and bad with the pretty and the ugly. Turn it into a positive. Experience. Learn. Never regret. Never limit. Always love.

I hope you all have a lovely weekend. Remember to give yourself credit for the hard week you have had. No matter what your hectic life is full of, remember to live. Love yourself. Don’t feel guilty about it. Love you all ❤

~Love Kaleido~

50 Fact Challenge

Hello, good lookin’ babes & dudes! I hope your weekend was fun, safe and amazing! Just thought I’d start the Monday with a 50 fact challenge about myself. If you wish to do the same challenge, shoot me an email or tag me on Instagram. See the Contact page for more details. Just thought since I have a few new guests, that I’d refresh what you need to know about me. Once I reach 50 followers, I’ll be doing a contest give away! So, head to the Contact page and sign up pretty please! I would love to see what you guys have to say or about you guys so please tag me! You guys are really going to understand how much of a weirdo I am!

1. My middle name was given to me by my Aunt Leslie, who’s middle name is Michelle.
2. I’ve worked as a fire spotter for my dad, Hastings, The Browse Shop (western apparel) & Hot Topic. Hot Topic is the dream job but I had lots of fun also dressing rodeo queens & blue grass bands.
3. Growing up, I wanted to be a sign language teacher, counselor, cop, song writer, tattoo artist, lawyer, hair stylist, wedding dress designer, makeup artist & the military.
4. Besides, Kaleido, my other nick name is Honey Bee and my mom is called Queen Bee.  My dad is grizzly bear…hahaha. Get it!? If you see me mentioning Honey Bear, that’s Jake, aka my hubby 😉
5. 98% of my closet consists of black. I always tell myself that I will wear something other than black. Never happens.
6. I am Caucasian, German, Cherokee & Comanche! I take pride in my heritage & family history.
7. It was a joke but it became a serious option when my mom was in labor with me. My name was going to be Pearly Gates in memory of my great granny, Pearl. Pearly Gates…get it? When my mom told me in about middle school of what my name nearly was, my friends started calling me that. I liked it more than my real name Brittany. (Everyone made Britney Spears jokes or assumed I was a huge fan. I have no clue why! It’s not like our names are even spelled the same).
8. My favorite bands are Five Finger Death Punch, In This Moment, Skillet, Nothing More and Halestorm.
9. I can’t stand to spend more than $20 on myself for any reason. I’m one of those people who gift others because it brings me joy, so doing that for myself is odd.
10. I’m debating about going back to college. I have done some online photography but I am thinking about beauty academy!
11. I would love to have an animal sanctuary
12. I have been planning all my tattoos since I was 5! My parents have biker friends and I just thought they were cool uncles who had amazing art on their bodies.
13. “Turn on’s” are a unique personality, smart, a cute smile and hard-working. Tattoo’s and piercings are just a bonus 😉 I find, esp in my Honey Bear, that the drive that he has for working so hard makes me so proud. I have someone who strives for better in life, loves work and makes a difference. So much passion in life and what they do!
14. My hair has been every color possible except black, silver, peach & pastel yellow.
15. I am tempted to bring home a stray animal, esp a dog, home EVERYDAY! It’s a real struggle! No, I am not an animal hoarder!
16. I have food allergies to most fruits & vegs, few meats, eggs, some nuts, dairy and gluten!
17. You can read more about it in my blog “Jesus Freak” because I give more details but I am terrified of church. Not every church or Christians are bad but I have had a few bad experiences. I believe in God. I have many friends who are of different religions & I love them all. I am not perfect. I am not here to pass judgement. So since I haven’t found a place to call “home” for worship, I have made a small altar in my craft room. A desk with candles, bible and music.
18. I have a small scar on the bottom of my chin from falling out of a chair. My grandpa told me to not lean back and I didn’t listen.
19. I can listen to a song on repeat for about a 100 times and never get tired of it!
20. Besides my ears being pierced, I have my Monroe piercing.
21. I am related to Hoot Gibson who was a producer, director, actor & a rodeo champion. He played in a few films with John Wayne!
22. My mom is really my best friend! She has never turned her back on me. Even when I told her I had a girlfriend in my high school year. When my best friend passed away, I was diagnosed with severe depression. I wanted to die because I felt so guilty to be living. When I cried out for help, I never got help. I told her & that’s what helped me through. No counselor ever helped. No medicine. The love and support of my mom is what has helped me through these past several years of struggle, loss and pain.
23. When I feel really ugly about myself, I put on Beyonce and act a fool. Doll myself up. Dance like an idiot. Sing into my mirror. Her song Pretty Hurts has helped me the most of all.
24. Horror movies are my favorite to watch! It gives me a reason to eat chocolate and get cuddles from my husband that will protect me from any gruesome monster.
25. I have a rare muscle condition. Not much is known about it except that it causes stroke like symptoms, bad headaches & my body draws up. No cure.
26. I love to bake more than cooking and I can cook pretty darn well. Well at least Honey Bear thinks so!
27. My original life plan was to go to college, don’t get married, no kids, travel a lot & own a lot of dogs. I never had a serious relationship. I knew I wasn’t meant to be with someone and most relationships never lasted past 2 weeks. It all changed when Jake came along.
28. My soul and heart belong in Austin, Tx
29. My grandpa was my partner in crime. Seriously. We did everything together. Now that he is gone, a huge part of me is gone. I feel lost.
30. I hate odd numbers.
31. Fall is my favorite part of the year. The smells of vanilla & cinnamon coffee, the leaves turning colors, sweater weather & cuddle season.
32. Halloween is what I plan for every year! I force Jake to dress up…I know he likes it. Maybe this year I can get him to get in some tights! haha!
33. I have a Mach Mustang
34. I collect Vans, My Little Ponies, Minerals, hats & vintage anything!
35. I have a crafty craft addiction! Everything is a craft project.
36. Nyctophilia
37. I’d rather be in a shark tank than be beside a grasshopper
38. My favorite rose is a Joseph’s Coat. Range in color on each rose so each one is unique
39. Vegan
40. My favorite color is Chartreuse
41. Most favorite thing I like about myself is my eyes. You can’t tell sometimes but one eye is a shade darker than the other. My eyes are blue with a little gold in them. I guess with my mood & weather, they change color.
42. I like to write sci-fi/fantasy short stories and only my mom has read a few. She’s been trying to push me into publishing them.
43. I have a small birth mark on my back that looks like a flower
44. I am a cartoon junkie. None of those annoying, weird and sometimes creepy cartoons of the 2000’s. I like creepy but some of these cartoons disturb me nowadays. I like Jem & The Holograms, The Jetsons, The Flintstones, Scooby Doo, Popeye, Gargoyles, Captain Planet, My Little Ponies, The Smurfs, Bonkers & THUNDERCATS!!!!!!
45. I am thankful to have them but I get grossed out about feet. Your feet better be clean, smell good & cared for before asking me for a foot massage!
46. Speaking of feet, the worst date I ever had was with this guy I was crazy about. Well we went to watch a movie and he started picking at his toes & chewed off his toe nails. Then tried to kiss me! I was out of there in 3 seconds!
47. I’m very upset & down that the new movie about Jem & The Holograms is nothing close to the story line of the cartoons! So sad!
48. I collect bones. Yes, bones. Fake & real. I take skulls off of farms that had a cow or something that passed away. I clean them and paint some. I like to put them in my house or in my garden. No animals were killed for my collection.
49. Even though it is a “bad luck” to have opal as a wedding ring, that’s what I got! I love anything with Opal.
50. I’m a professional shower singer 😉 My voice is like an angel when I sing into that shower head!

Wow, that was too long of a challenge! 50 Facts you needed to know about me! Hope you guys didn’t pass out while reading that! Tell me 20-50 facts about yourself! Tag me! Remember to sign up on the Contact page. Once I reach 50 followers, I will be having a give away! Have a wonderful Monday!

~Love, Kaleido~

Just Shut Up!

Hey, ladies and gents! Hope you all are having a beautiful day and feeling great. I don’t really like to get into the media and drama but there is something that is kind of bothering me. I won’t say the names of the people who I am talking about who are bashing Caitlyn Jenner, formerly known as Bruce Jenner, but I do want to kind of talk about how the people around us influence others.

I believe that people are allowed to have an opinion, have their own beliefs and such. This is a free country, right? We live in an amazing place where we can do just about whatever we want to our bodies and such unlike other countries that control what you do and look like. The thing I’m having a problem is the people I have on my personal Facebook that are acquaintances and such.

When Caitlyn came out a few days ago on the cover of  Vanity Fair, there was so much love! Everyone actually thought that Caitlyn Jenner was Jessica Lange. You may know Jessica Lange off of American Horror Story (she is my favorite actress ever)! Even men who were shown the cover didn’t know Caitlyn was Bruce and described her as “beautiful”. When the men were told that it was Bruce Jenner, they were stunned & believed that she was STILL beautiful. I was stunned and proud to see that even men found Bruce Jenner to be beautiful with his transition.

Now a day after Caitlyn coming out, a few fans reported Caitlyn to be a “hero” to them and that Caitlyn coming out has inspired them to also come out, be brave and such. Which I believe is great! Now some man, will not share his name, has shared a picture of a soldier and the caption says “As I see post after post Bruce Jenner’s transition to a woman, and I hear words like bravery, heroism, and courage, just thought I’d remind all of us what real American courage, heroism and courage looks like.”

If it wasn’t for health, I would be an American soldier at this very moment! That was my life plan. So when I bring our soldiers into this topic, I mean no disrespect at all or in any way! Our soldiers have died and fought for us all so that we can have these rights and freedom to live how we want to. Right!? Also, I find that anyone can be a hero! I mean you see celebrities saying speak up and be a voice for someone or an animal. You see young teens commenting on YouTube channels saying “you are my hero, your lyrics inspired me to do better, you saved my life”, etc. Anyone should inspire to do better, be true and honest, to help others and such. Why is an American soldier the only one allowed to be a hero!? My grandpa and his brother were in the military and I am proud of that! I just feel that you don’t have to be in the military to be a hero. The fact that if someone or something has done something to better someone else’s life, shouldn’t that be a rewarding reminder that someone didn’t lose their own life or someone else’s due to someone who was brave enough to step up!

A war hero had nothing to do about Bruce Jenner’s transition to Caitlyn Jenner. Now people are sharing his post and turning this into a negative. Caitlyn never said he was a hero or took credit for saving lives. The fact that some people on my friend’s list on Facebook who are sharing this are supposedly “non judgemental Christians” or have friends that are cross dressers, transgender, gay, lesbian or bi. So I find it very hypocritical that these people of Christian status or friends with a transgender or such, are sharing this and saying such ugly things. As a Christian, you are supposed to LOVE your sister or brother, your neighbor as you would love yourself. No matter if you agree with their life choice or way, you are supposed to love them as what and who they are. Also, isn’t God the only one allowed to judge!? I believe in God, I’m not perfect and such but I do believe God wouldn’t want me passing judgement. One of the girl’s that shared this claims to be a devoted Christian. The fact is that this girl who has so many people to share the word of God to and she is bashing one of God’s children. Leave the judgement to God only. If Caitlyn Jenner is not harming you in any way, then what is the problem?

The fact that some people have not come out as a transgender, bi, lesbian, gay, etc, maybe a reason for the stuff you say in person or on social media. What if your family member was a cross dresser? What if you 5-year-old daughter grows up one day to then want to be a man? Your daughter will live in fear and lies because she knows how you feel about the topic. This is modern-day. This doesn’t mean you have to push over your beliefs due to someone else’s life style. It means stop the judgement, be open-minded, pray, love one another, help one another, inspire, share the word of God or whatever it is that can help someone. Bruce Jenner is NOT the first transgender, people! So why just hate on him? Why not all the other transgenders?

God would not want me to judge Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner for that is His job and not mine. I am supposed to love my neighbors who apparently broke into my house a few times before we actually moved in. I am supposed to pray for other’s for they do not know what they are doing. I hope that no matter what religion you are, that you are hoping and praying for my sins and faults. That I grow, love and learn. We all live on one planet, we share the same air, our blood is the same color. If we do not stand for one another, then we will have to blame ourselves for when one falls. When you hear that your niece committed suicide because she didn’t feel normal, wouldn’t you feel guilty that you didn’t express love and acceptance?

Bottom line is, Caitlyn Jenner has inspired and helped others with this “problem”. Caitlyn never disrespected our brave men and women that fight for us to be free in every way that we can be free. Some upset man had to bring a negative into something life inspiring and now everyone is bashing one another. If this man wouldn’t have done that, yes there would still be people bashing. I just find it ironic that someone who loves their transgender best friend is bashing Caitlyn Jenner. Be a hero, inspire and HELP one another. You’re a devoted Christian? Well then stop passing judgement. It’s not your job, right? That’s not on your resume to bash someone right!? Speak kindly of wisdom and love around others for you do not know if a family member, your kids or friends are hiding a secret.

Love one another. Be someone’s voice when they don’t have one. Save a life in any way POSSIBLE!

~Love Kaleidoscope~